Let’s face it, dating can be a rollercoaster of emotions: the trepidation before a first date, the feeling of living for that text reply, the intoxicating longing of a new crush, the pang of ghosting or rejection, and the euphoria that can come from finally finding a spark.
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Read MoreCompromise. It’s a word people often use when doling out relationship advice. We hear that it’s necessary but that too much compromise can lead to resentment. So, how can you make a willing sacrifice without losing yourself?
Read MoreFor many of us, the fight was fascinating, a little funny, and uncomfortably familiar. As a couples therapist, a lot of what was communicated between Brady and Hill felt very similar to a typical session I might see. I think there is a lot we can learn from this vignette on how to communicate with more vulnerability, intimacy, and care in our own relationships.
Read MoreYou can avoid a lot of hurt in relationships if you custom-build a form of monogamy or non-monogamy that truly works for you. One of the main benefits of non-monogamy is that it allows people to create relationship structures that align with their values, which can leave them feeling more fulfilled.
Read MoreAs you consider whether or not polyamory is right for you, you may experience a mixture of nerves, fear, excitement, or even a sense of urgency to get started already. I recommend striking a balance between preparation and flexibility.
Read MoreThere’s often a temptation to go with the flow and skip communication in FWB setups. I often see this approach end in disappointment and heartbreak.
Read MoreBecause friends with benefits is a blurry term, it can be helpful to assess what you truly want from a FWB arrangement and take time to talk about it with your f-buddy.
Read MoreThinking about ending a relationship can be a lonely time. You may feel a million miles away from your partner and stuck asking yourself questions like “What do I want?”, “Am I happy?”, “What does a good enough relationship even look like?”, and “How do I know it’s time to break up?”
Read MoreI’ve always been fascinated with relationships. As a young child, I mainlined Disney movies and rom coms, with their happily-ever-afters. I was enchanted by the idea of finding a love that lasted. This passion drove me to read endlessly about relationships, at the age of eleven buying How to Win Friends and Influence People For Teen Girls (yes, there is actually children’s version) — and eventually to pursue a career as a certified sex and relationship therapist.
Read MoreWe have to be careful not to try to mold others into a reductive template of what we think confidence is, and instead open ourselves up to many effective leadership styles and valuable talents.
Read MoreI want to move away from dissecting one woman’s tone-deaf pep talk, and more so use it as an example to talk about what healthy self-esteem is, and what it is not. Spoiler: it is not about being as unrelatable as possible
Read MoreRecently, I have become aware of how my self-proclaimed “body positivity” was built on the fragile foundation of other people’s opinions.
Read MoreI come to you with a story of a bizarre research study. The hope was that they would identify an algorithm that could work to weed out Tinder predators
Read MoreSo, I am a little late to the party. I was fortunate to enjoy a secure and loving romantic relationship from the ages of 17 through 24, a time when people often feel the most lost and alone. As a result, it is not until the age of 25 that I have begun to explore the monsoon-clusterfuck that is modern-dating.
Read MoreI grew up watching The Oprah Winfrey Show most days after school. Oprah deserves part, if not full, credit for my choice to pursue counselling as a career. I grew up in a household where most controversial or emotional topics were swept under the rug—my afternoons spent watching The Oprah Show were the first place I remember seeing people actually talk about their feelings.
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